Sunday 11 April 2010

What makes people happy?

The answer for this question is impossible if we don't ask: what is the happiness? And if we find this answer, we should find the next, for question: what is the most important in our life?

It is the key to happiness.

Relationships
Relationships are very important part of our life. The man is social human. Thus relationship is our elementary desire. You can disagree with this thesis, but you imagine your life without other people.

Scientists say married people tended to be the happiest of all and people who live alone tended to be least happy. The life serves examples: people in love tell about themself 'the happiest people in the world'. And the next example: children from children's home are definitely unhappy. If someone want to adopt them, they start to fight for love. Thus, they need love like the air.


But not only love makes us happy. Friendship is identically important. This relationship guarantees safety and cuold be a source of mental and emotional growth.










Accept yourself!

You couldn't feel happy if you don't like yourself. Maslow said the healthy man is man who recognizes oneself and who like be yourself. If somebody doesn't tollerant his life, he concentrates on his problems and he doesn't see other people and - it's the most important - he has a negative perception of the world. So if you want to be happy, you should accept you and concentrate on your adventages. Wear pink glesses!

Maslow's pyramide

Money and work
'Money don't have hapiness'. It's true (and slogan morover), but money help to
fulfil dreams -it definitely makes people happy. But I see one serious risk: if somebody forget
about his dreams and the money become the aim, not the mode.

Work ties in success. People are happier when they are successfully doing something that absorbs them and challenges their skills. In fact unemployment is one of the greatest causes of feeling bad.

Nowadays more people see that work for another is source of happiness. Somebody does volunteer work tend to be happier than somebody in paid work. Maybe therefore he is more connected to his community...
Health
'The man who is health is happier than somebody who is ill.' I don't know it's true. Sometimes disableds are jollier than people completely ablebodied. I yhink happiness has source in our mind, not in our body.
And what do you think?

Religion

According scientists religion is important reason of our wellbeing. They point
three causes which make our life happier:

'1. Believers tend to be part of gropus with strong relationships, and may be committed to more altruistic behaviour.

2. Generally, religious faith gives people peace, hope and sense of purpose, all of whih are very important for happiness.

3. Studies show that one of the greatest keys to long term happiness is going beyond ourselves and our pleasures to give ourselves in the srevice of something that we belive is
more important than we are.'



What do you think about this reason of happiness?

Are you feel happy? Why yes or why not?

46 comments:

  1. I'm happy, I have fresh air, water, food, laptop and ideas to accomplish ;-)

    "Money don't have happiness" - nice slogan, but I think poor people have their own: "I need some money to be more happy" ;)

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  2. I am happy, too:) Of course there are some whiles when I feel bad - especially grey, rainy and windy days make me feel unhappy... but generally life is beautiful!!!:)
    But seriously, happiness is when you have somebody to love and when you are loved by someone; when you have somebody to share happiness with.
    I believe that "money don't have happiness" but I agree also that they help our dreams come true...

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  3. There are moments in my life when I am not able to be happy. It is associated with some failures or disasters. But there are also such moments when I am not able be sad. Life bie is neither black nor white. As for human relationships they are giving me much joy but they can sometimes also be with the reason of sadness but the time with impulse to zchange of oneself for better. They are saying: happinesses aren't giving money... perhaps it is true for happinesses not but joy - yes!

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  4. I heared another slogan: in life only moments are beautiful. I'm rather prone to agree with that. Life in general is hard. Things which can make it a bit nicer are family, friendship, sometimes money and things which we posses, but first of all it is religion. Without hope of better life in future I think life wouldn't be worth of living.

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  5. I think that all reasons that Asia has specified can make people happy. Of course, each person is different and when one of us respects more family, another can prefer money and work. I think that I'm a really happy person. I love my studies (at least yet;) ), I have wonderful friends and family... I can develop my hobbies and do what I really love... So if I said that I'm not happy I would definitely lie ;) For me the most difficult thing is to accept myself absolutely... But I'm working on it ;) I'm rather an optimistic person, at least my friends say so and they know me best :)

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  6. I think sometimes people tend to forget how much they should be grateful for and how many reasons they actually have to be happy. It is easy to forget to notice little things in life which could be the source of happiness. I know I forget quite often;).
    Also many people set very high expectations for themselves, which they can not meet, and this is often the reason why they feel down. I believe that in order to be happy it is very important to accept yourself and like who we are. (Even though this is hard to do for most people. I know I have to work on it;)) The way we see ourselves inflects the way other people perceive us. An easy-going and optimistic person, who is happy, seems more appealing to other people and attracts them, so it is easier for such a person to make friends and find a partner, which I think is the second most essential thing necessary for someone to achieve happiness.

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  7. I think that life have ups and downs . We all have to deal with our problems and fears. And we all different so happiness is rather individual thing. Beside basic human necessities, there is a lot of our personal needs which we have to satisfy to feel happy.
    So in my opinion it’s very important to accept ourselves, what was mentioned in text above. It help us with understand what we expect form life and what we individually need to be happy.
    What we only have to remember is that we wouldn’t know what happiness means if we didn’t know sadness.

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  8. In my opinion life is not easy, however, it is beautiful. I agree with the slogan quoted by Michał, but I would interpret it in a different way. For me it means that we shoud not look back in the past and worry about the future, but profit from present moments. Otherwise, we lose all of these moments.
    Maybe I insist on this aspect because personally I worry too much about the future and it kills my life's joy!
    But I think I'm really a happy person, I had a happy childhood (in spite of difficult situations) and I have met a lot of wonderful people. I'm very grateful for it!

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  9. Happiness is not easy to define and it consists of various simultaneous elements.
    All of above mentioned like relationships, health, religion and also money are essential to a different degree for us, cause every person arrange his own hierarchy of importances.

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  10. Yes i agree with all of you, but i disagrre with one that money couldn't make us happy. Of course it's only a pice of paper, but thing which we can buy when we have money colud make us happy. It's hard to be cheerful when you sleep under the bridge and don't have sth to eat. When we satisfy our basic needs than we could talk about long term happiness.

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  11. It's true that relationships are very important part of our live. What else make as happy? In my opinion good work can bring us happiness. If we do something which is our passion and in addition we earn money, every next day of our life give us happiness.

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  12. It seems that the most important thing is to find purpose and joy in everyday life. I think that happiness is a subjective feelings and depends on ours state of mind. We sholud meet ours friend, spend more time with people who love us, cultivate hobbies and don't worry to much, even if things go wrong...and say ,,yes" to every opportunity to make something what we always want to do..

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  13. I cannot point one reason why I feel happy, I think. I have a big family and I know that I can depend on them.
    My friends are the source of happiness also. Because of them I have amazing memories and they make me feel happy all the time. I cannot imagine my life without them.
    I’m happy, because I can learn, develop my hobbies, I’m not sick. Also reasons of my happiness is my country without the war and frequent natural disasters.

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  14. I don't have any reason to be unhappy so I'm happy - it's my philosophy ;)MOreover, I have many reasons to feel happy. Health, friends, family, relationship - I think I'm lucky person.

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  15. In my view being happy in m most cases totally depends on you. I think to we are in better situations than most people on the world. That's one reason and if this one is not enough than you could always experience worse. You may think that you hit rock bottom but it can be even worse. So cheer up and world will look a way better place to live

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  16. First step to be happy is to not only accept yourself but to love yourself, accepting your weaknesses and trying to evolve all the time. Second is to love someone else. Rest is to have sense of humor, health, energy and a little of good luck.
    Such a simple recipient and so difficult to accomplish:)
    I feel happy most of the time but to see if it is a real happiness I would have to look at it from the point of view of future me.

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  17. Nowadays there are a lot of things that make people happy. We can do wathever we want. We even can check what make us happy.
    Yes i am happy, because i have my lovely boyfriend, i study what i want. I will go to France for four months and this is what i want.Sun is rising, everywhere is green and people smiling. I think that weather make people happy too. It is very important.
    Yes, every things that you writte make me happy, and i think that many people feel the same.

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  18. Reason of happiness it's difficult to say, because each person is different and for each person different things make them happy. It only depends on personality

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  19. I agree with joanna_m. For each person something else brings hapiness. Although in my opinion the basic of hapiness is self-acceptation. If you feel comfortable with yourself then you're not worried about things like "did I say something stupid?" or "Do they like me? Cause I look quite awful today". Self-confident poeple are more cheerful and feel pleasure more often, also because of their possitive thinking. Then it's easier to find a partner and to be more succesful in your job. All falls into place.

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  20. The reasons of happiness? I would say that not concerning on ourselves-our emotions, health, what people think about us etc. makes us happy. Self-centered person thinks all the time about his problems and can't admire the world around.
    I can say that I'm a really happy person. I have all things needed to live happily and if I have some problems I have family, friends and faith to help me to deal with them.

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  21. The modern 'culture' (it's not a cultre, more like a mass histeria) drives people crazy. They think they don't mean anything if they're not rich and beautiful. It's getting more and more serious because of some stupid films (with glamorous celebrities of course, Hollywood), serials and commercials. They're all telling that you should be perfect. Well - you're not. And you'll never will be. Face it and learn how to live with this. Don't let them drive yourself crazy and forget about this twisted version of 'American dream'. Don't forget about your friends, your family, surrounding nature, the whole big beautiful world. World is not ending on the graves made of glass and cement (called city centers). Peace ;)

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  22. I definitely agree that self-acceptance is main point to success. Being pleased with yourself makes us relaxed and give us positive goat.I also agree that we can become more and more happy because of work which satisfies and develops us. Thanks to this we feel proud of us so we are happy ;)

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  23. The money do not give happiness but you can not live without them. In my opinion people are happy when they are healthy, they have a family and friends. I am happy because I do not need much to be happy. I can enjoy of the small things and I nothing in life do not regret.

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  24. In my opinion everyone can be happy if only want to try to get it.Of course easier is grumble and do nothing for change to better.People are sad because they can't enjoy the small things,they just don't notice what they have,they only want more.I know people which have everything of list above and they are unhappy-because they can't appreciate this what they have,and focused on their grief.I think that if we want to be happy we should learn notice everything what we get,and enjoy every moments (good or bad)because they are quickly disappear and never return.

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  25. Sometimes I'm not happy,I don't appreciate everyday simple 'miracles'... but I'm trying to change it :)
    I think that if you accept yourself,if you have people who loves you and who you love it's great way to be happy ;) money will never supply real relationships! :)

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  26. I notice that when I think that I'm happy, I'm. Stupid things give me happiness. I thank that everythink depend on our attitude. Of course money don't have happiness, but without this we also don't be happy.Love and good relatinships is the best way to be happy.

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  27. For me, the most important thing in my life is relantionship with my familly, boyfriend and friends. These people make me happy. Also to accept yourself is really important. I think tjat without it, we will never find real happiness. Work, money are necessary, people strive to achieve them but it is a real happiness? I don't think so.

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  28. In my opinion very important is family, you can change everythink: work, car , house, boyfriend but you can't hange your family. Family is always near you it ist't depands what are you doing or who much money have.If you have problem family will help you. The second are friend without them life will be very sad. Money is also important but we should try to remember that is a lot of things that we can't buy,

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  29. Happy.. In my opinion everyone has a different idea of happiness. For me the most important thing is relationships with other people. Becouse I think it is just friends, family, our beloved people dicide who we are for them and for myself. If I'm accepted by the environment in which they well I liked and appreciated I am by happy and satisfaited for myself.

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  30. I agree with people above. People are happy when they are healthy, they have a happy family and true friends. Good job and good quality of life- this also helps to be happy. And of course, if you would be happy you should accept yourself! :)

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  31. Happiness means having family who loves you and helps you in problems,friends,fun in life,health,good job and place where you feel relaxed and safe...
    Happy people often don't know about their happines.Unfortunately,we don't appreciate our life,family,friends..We are often too egoistic or just too lazy to be happy..
    Our happiness often depends on our attitude to life and to other people..

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  32. Funny question. I'm a happy human. I even smile when I'm really, really sterssed. What makes me feel happy is my family. The awarensess that no mather what I have someone I can count on. What do I need more? With a strong family you may climb the highest mountain. Of course, people need something ore someone to believe in.I'm also one of them.
    AND OF COURSE I feel happy after eating a bar of chocolate! :)

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  33. I remember how at school they were teaching about this pyramid, these are needs of the man from of the ones most important for other, the truth is so that when satisfied physical needs won't be it is also psychological not. the condition of happiness is so changeable, one he pleases it, by something else they would be bad:) most important to find it one's place in the sun.

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  34. Cool, but great in this article. There are a few new looks currently particularly amongst girls, and I don't apologise, they are still metroseksualni boys and persons which it isn't possible to describe the sex, but so seriously it isn't necessary to watch it to the style and the appearance, for me it is essential what the man is able to do, what character has. It, with time appearance strange, isn't marking it, around belongs to subcultures.

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  35. I always think that people are the most important in our life. Try to live alone, without family, friends or schoolmates. Good work, interesting studies or money are nessesery but they cannot make you happy if you don't have someone who always says: I'm proud of you.

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  36. I need to be happy: my family and friends,health, health, health, apples and books. And from time to time a good film.

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  37. Each of us feels the need to love. Everybody wants to have friends. This is normal. That man is designed by nature

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  38. First of all people around me makes me happy. I love travel but I am unhappy when I am travel without my friends. Accept myself makes me happy. I could feel happy only when I like myself. I feel unhappy when I am lonley so relationship and family makes me happy. There are a lot of things mke me happy and Iam trying to connect whole happy things in my life

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  39. In this question I must agree with Aleksandra about happy. In the world are billions people and for each happiness mean something else. Certainly are people for their happiness is fashion.

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  40. Self-satisfaction, money and work, health, religion-these things can give happiness to people. This makes me happy that I can go out with friends and have fun. Of course, as a person is healthy, you might be from the health to enjoy. Everyone can enjoy some different things.

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  41. Hmm... ;) I think they are several reasons of happiness, such as family, career, money. But the most important for me is good relationships with other people and it makes me happy.

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  42. One of the most important things for me are relationships with my friends. Money and self-satisfaction helps to be happier too but the best feeling is absolutely freedom and independence. I want to be happy and free so I try to take every possible day and live like it's the weekend ;)

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  43. Happiness of person is own, sometimes even undefined state, that can be difficult to achieve. But I think that money might be important factor. Religion is not for everybody. Just like art or many other hobbies. If money is not earned in expense of ones happiness, than money certainly can improve that feeling.

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  44. To be honest with you Im happy when my friends are happy :) Thats normal. My family and my friends are the most important thing in my life. I dont do religion and I dont think that religion should put people appart. Were living in the same planet and all we can do is just dance and have fun and be happy all the time becouse its just this life we have No more.

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  45. The most important things in blog What make people happy is definition of happiness. A lot of people think that relationships are the first on the list. Love leads to the fact that the man has a lot of strenght. Also you must accept yourself. This blog is presented a Maslow's pyramid which shows values of life. Money and work don't give happiness. They can help to fulfill a dreams.

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  46. In my opinion everyone have to look for this little stuff what can make him happy every day. I think when we are in a good relations with others, we are happy. There is no golden-mean to be happy, but a smile can make everything easier. :)

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